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"Should's" are Sucking the
Joy from Your Life!
I should do this…I should be happy…I should have that…
Can' you already sense the joy being sucked right out of you, just reading
these simple sentences?
"Should's" are heavy duty obstacles creating resistance in your flow of
energy.
They come from society and family, and we grow accustomed to applying them
to our own life and then giving them as poisoned gifts to our own children.
"You shouldn’t have sex before marriage." This is a good one that sucks the
pleasure out of the lives of so many people in the US. This "should "
creates a huge impact on the sex lives of so many couples in this country.
Then I see them in my practice…they have been married for years, but
somewhere down in the recesses of their mind, they still think they
shouldn’t have sex. The marriage has not changed one thing. They are still
programmed to avoid sex. You don’t turn should's on and off so easily!
“Shoulds” are some of the most poisonous thoughts of all.
Have you ever seen an animal think in terms of "should"? How about a
guilt-ridden dog thinking , “I should not eat this extra bone; it is not
good for me". Or... "shouldn't I be with a wealthier owner by now”?
You don't see them resist life; they are where they are, and they do what
they do. They go with the flow.
It is wonderful to have animals around. They teach you these lessons!
When you listen to this little voice inside telling you "you should...",
this is a trap. This is what destroys the joy in your life.
You are thinking life upstream rather than sensing your experiences down the
river.
In the end, “should's” truly keep you from being happy. They keep you low on
the ladder emotionally, and therefore prevent the attraction of your dream
life!
And I can hear you screaming: "But aren't there things that we shouldn’t do?
Yes, but if you truly learn to listen to your intuition and inner guidance,
you will automatically be directed toward those things that bring the best
possible outcome for you and everyone else involved.
I remember one “should” that made me miserable for some years until I rid
myself of it…and my friends all had the same problem at the time as well..
As I was living in France, we were all getting on into our thirties. In
France (Europe in general) when you approach thirty, you had better know
what you want to do when you grow up!
Because some of us needed more time to test our talents and learn from
experience to go with the flow, we all felt like failures for not already
having a clear career path established before us.
In Europe the pressure is much greater than here! Over there, you are not
going to receive a second chance—at least that is the belief (and therefore
the reality): that the culture, laws, and mores are not set to allow you to
take your time deciding on a profession. They think that if you have not
made it by then, you have no hope but to go to Lourdes and get on your knees
and pray for a miracle to happen.
So, just to summarize: the belief held in the consciousness of France is
this:
“By age thirty-something, I should be settled down with a family, have a
career, and know what I am going to do for the rest of my life in order to
arrive successfully and securely at retirement one day.”
If you think about it, this is one powerful "should" that really sucks!
One thought! It is only one thought!
One thought like this can prevent you from being happy for the rest of your
life!
I'm going back to Europe this summer, and will feel first-hand once again
the pressure people put upon themselves, and the subsequent disappointment
they experience about their lives.
They feel victimized and hopeless when they have not "made it" by thirty.
Now my friends are in their forties and those who have not “achieved” are
sad, disappointed, and feel as if they are still at the bottom of the
ladder.
I am so happy to live in a country where the cultural beliefs help people
re-imagine their lives moment by moment. Yes, it is true; you can change any
belief. But you accomplish it much more easily if you have access to support
and proven tools and techniques to help you transform deeply ingrained
cultural beliefs.
At present, there is an abundance of support. You have the movie "The
Secret" as well as other resources (Abraham-Hicks) that will give you the
support you need to reassess your “should's”.
This week , look at all the "should's" coming from your family and society
that are sucking away at your joy!
Take a big one, and decide to let it go.
Ask yourself the four questions of the Sedona Method; (repeat as often as
you need):
Can I welcome this feeling? (feel the pressure of the "should".)
Could I let it go?
Would I let it go?
When?
Realize that there are no “should's” written in the sky by the universe.
Every “should” is an invention of man. Since you are doing the creating of
your own life now, you may dispose of them at any time, and there's no time
like the present!
Go with the flow...release some boulders this week!
Warmly,
Colette Streicher, LMSW
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